Now look how civilized they became just because of the thought that maybe we have a female member

Which ever gender, welcome Ami

On paper it appears that the amp/speakers combination should not present any problems, but obviously something is very wrong. Either the speakers are driven to their max most of the time(even then I would not expect a speaker cone to tear) or there could be a problem with the amplifier itself.
I have only seen this happen once.
A friend of mine had an amp/speaker combination where the amp did not have enough power to really drive the speakers(the indicator lights on the amp used to blink when playing low notes!). He also played music with the "bass" turned to maximum and "treble" almost at minimum. To add insult to injury his teenage son decided that his bass amp(bass guitar) did not provide enough bass, so he plugged the headphone output from his bass amp into the microphone in on the amplifier. All of this eventually caused a tear in both bass-mid drivers and even after the first replacement, the abuse continued resulting in 4 replacements in total. Since then the old amplifier has been replaced with a HK AVR and the son moved out of the house and my friend turned the bass down a bit and the speakers are still in good shape.
This short story may not help Ami, but could shed some light on how what we consider to be "normal" usage could result in abuse of equipment.